Shibari How To: Lesson 9/Basic Rope Info

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BASIC ROPE INFO
By MorTis

Now when dealing with rope bondage, one of the most important things if to figure out what kind of rope you want to use! (duh!) Now almost any kind of rope can be used for bondage. Nylon and cotton are the most commonly used in the US, Hemp and Jute are the most common used in Japanese bondage photos, and in Japan. The only thing you want to stay away from is rope that is hard (like normal plastic), or rope that is cored (meaning it has one material on the outside, and is plastic center in it).

The qualities that make up the most important properties of selecting rope is the material , its strength, length, size (diameter), tooth and feel overall feel of the rope.

Material: Rope can be made out of almost any kind of natural or syntheic fibers. Every fiber has its own characteristics.

Length: how long is the rope you want to use?

Size (diameter): How large / wide is the rope. (i.e. 1/4″, 5/16″, 5/8″ or 4mm, 6mm,or 8mm etc.)

Strength: How much weight the rope can hold under a load. For static bondage, this is not a very important factor, but for suspension bondage this is a very important factor!

Tooth: How the surface of the rope feels, how well the surface helps the rope keep knots

Finishing the ends: When Cutting rope, you have to make sure the ropes end will not unravel.

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Challenge to Yin: Single Drop of Cum

So Yin and I were talking last night about this weekend…and about our discovery of my ability to have extended periods of erections by not cumming, but instead staying very, very close to that state without going too far.

It’s become a bit of a fascination to play around with that “edge” and see how close we can get without going too far. The feeling of my cock in that state is like this: rock hard, sensitive beyond description, and very much like a leash to my soul that she can grip, hold, stroke, plunge inside her pussy, lick with her tongue and generally use in whatever way turns her on most. I absolutely feel like I’m part of her when we’re having sex and my cock is being used by her when it’s in that condition. It’s also like I’ve been turned inside out and discovered that in that condition my whole body is an erogenous zone. Afterwards, with no ejaculation, there is definitely a blueball ache going on. In high school/younger years, this would have been all about being frustrated over not ejaculating and not something I would have enjoyed. Now though, with Yin, it’s actually a pleasurable ache that seems to arise from anticipation of wanting more of her. Weird, but true: I actually like not cumming, because it means I get to fuck Yin, or get sucked, etc etc, again, soon, and for as long as we want. I do eventually want to cum, but only after we’re both finished with all aspects of sex with each other. This is not a short term period (minutes or hours), but usually goes on for 2-3 days (all weekend). I’m wondering what it would be like if we had a week or so to be together…

Anyway, my challenge to Yin for this weekend: to see if you can take my cock past the edge just long enough for one single drop of cum to escape. I’m thinking it would be a new level of intensity for me, and so I’m curious about it. I also think there’s something erotic about watching you concentrate on my cock in that way…I can almost see you riding it, sucking it, working it up, then slowly stroking and circling it, fingering it up and down, kissing and licking it, and playing with it as you do so well…all to coax out a solitary drop  of cum.  I’m also wondering too, if it will be more than I can stand, and whether I’ll have to flip you onto your back, spread your legs, and have you. We’ll see.

Shibari With Altitude (lol)

Yin and I need something to do this summer. I’ve got an idea…

http://youporn.com/watch/185672/alpine-hot-sex/

This Weekend…

Yin and I get to be together this weekend…I think I’ll try something new with her and see how she likes it. I’m undecided though…

Yin on her back on the edge of the bed to see if this makes it easier for her to suck my cock?

Yin and I going for a naked stroll out back at night (yes I have the ground/privacy) to find a place to have a ‘wild’ encounter?

Yin on her toes with her back against the wall so I can lick her pussy until she can’t stand?

Yin and I practicing Shibari so I can release her inner animal?

Yin and I each writing one thing down on a piece of paper that we’d like to do to the other…and then doing it?

Yin and I each writing one thing down on a piece of paper that we’d like the other to do to us…and then the other doing it?

Yin and I each writing one thing down on a piece of paper that we’d like to see the other do to them self…and then the other doing it?

Anyone have any input? We have the whole weekend, so don’t be shy.

Shibari How To: Lesson 8/Scene Checklists

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Pre - scene check list

1. Communication: talk about what you plan on doing, any kind of medical or psychological problems that may come out in the scene you’re going to do.

What do you plan to do?
Safe words or other communication codes?
Does the victim have any injuries to look out for, or to work around?
Is the victim diabetic, asthmatic or epileptic?
Have any other medical problems? Have supplies for any medical needs around.
After care needs?

2. Make sure all your emergency equipment is where it’s supposed to be.

EMT shears where you can reach it fast! (like on your belt, or in your boot).
Keep water handy
Have cranberry juice for people with sugar imbalances ready.
Have any medication handy if needed.
Make sure your emergency equipment is handy and working.
Keep a blanket and towel around, it’s possible for body temp to drop during and after a scene.
Know where there is a first aid kit, fire extinguisher, and flash light.

3. Check and clean all your equipment.

Prepare all your rope. Make sure it’s clean, and no frays or tears in the rope.
Check your ropes, remember this is the only thing that keeps your victim secure!
Always check the equipment first, and test it on yourself. You don’t want to find the equipment is faulty on someone who is immobile, this is extremely dangerous to their safety!

Scene check list

Communication: check on your victim during the bondage, make sure everything is OK. Check to make sure there are no blood flow or nerve pressure problems happening.

If there are blood flow issues, it’s not an emergency! So do not freak out! Just adjust the rope and position to help with that. Some victims do not mind numb body parts. Usually a limb can stay numb for hours before any damage starts to set in. Consult a doctor more about these issues.

Nerve (compression) damage - This is a serious issue and should be taken care of ASAP! A victim will know the difference between numbness and nerve damage, that is a bad bad bad pain (meaning not a good pain) and can cause semi-long term or even possible permanent damage. Also sometimes nerve damage will not hurt, and just feel numb, and how you tell this is if they can NOT move the fingers or toes at all. With numbness a person can still move their fingers and toes even though they are numb.

If you need water or orange/cranberry juice for sugar levels, do so! If bondage will be for a long period of time, they will need to replace water.

Adjust rope if you need too! Everyone’s physiology is different, on one person a tie may be perfect, but may not work on someone else. Sometimes just moving the rope 1/4″ of an inch can turn hell into heaven, or heaven into hell for the person. So if it does not work, experiment a little. Remember nerves are microscopic in size!

Post-Scene checklist

Some of these can be started during or at the end of the scene.

Communication: check on your victim’s needs and see how they feel.

Start after care!

When taking your victim out of ropes, most likely they will not be able to keep their balance, especially if they were in sub space or exhausted or weak from the scene.

When taking rope off, there will be rope marks. You can either leave them, and let the blood fill naturally. Or you can give them a message to help the blood came back. Either is acceptable, but usually the victim will like the message more.

Your victim will be cold, and/or wet. So keep a blanket around to put on them to warm them up. And a towel to dry them off.

Most likely your victim will need water, sugar or possibly food to replenish!

Clean and organize your equipment and rope.

Assess the scene when possible.

Emergency Removal:

Remember that rope is cheap, and easily replaceable, a good victim is not! So if there is a problem, and you don’t think you can safely remove the victim in time, DO NOT hesitate to cut the rope off with EMT shears! You have to recycle your victims, so you can use them over, and over and over! ==B)

1. First, you have to keep your cool! A top that loses control can be more deadly than any situation!

2. Secondly, assess the situation. Sometimes cutting a person out right away can put them in more danger then leaving them in and taking them out slowly.

3. If others are going to help you, keep control of what is going on! Tell them what and when to do things! Someone else doesn’t know your rope work, and can put your victim in danger by cutting or removing the wrong rope at the wrong time! Having a spotter is a good idea, but either way, keep control of the scene!

4. Do not hesitate to call 9-1-1, it’s better to be safe then sorry!

5. Work on some major After Care!

Loaded Cock

I got to be with Yin yesterday due to an unusual addition to our normal schedules.  Good thing too, because my cock was fully loaded and ready to fire. Funny thing I’ve noticed about this condition lately…I like the feeling of my cock like this almost every bit as much as I like it being fired (so to speak). When Yin has her mouth or hand or fingers (or ass too I’m sure…we’ll have to find out about that soon) wrapped around my cock, gets it to the point that the shaft is full of cum (feels like it anyway), and then we just simply stay perched like that…balanced on the edge of cumming…the feeling is beyond my ability to describe. For Yin, it permits unlimited amounts of O’s…as many as she wants. For me, it permits me to surpass all previous limits of fucking Yin…we’re not talking minutes…we’re talking hours, days if desired…just as long as we don’t tip off and go that one stroke too far. I almost, actually, hate when that happens…despite how good it feels…because I know that means we’re at the end until I can recover enough to go again. I’ve noticed that the longer I go in between firing, the more intense the feeling of balancing on the edge becomes and the more incredibly sensational actually firing feels.

Shibari How To: Lesson 7/Schools of Bondage

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Schools of bondage
by MorTis

Schools (or classifications) of Shibari
I have heard 100’s of different activities people do with bondage, and I want to more clearly categorize them. I came up with 5 major schools that I could classify into these major schools. Now, an activity could be in more than one school at the same time, and you can use more than one school in the same session. There may be more, but these are what I came up with.

1. Artistic (for art, photography, etc)
2. Torture/Interrogation (hojojustu)
3, Erotic Bondage (Kinbaku-bi, this would include sex)
4. Sexual humiliation (kinbaku-bi, seen most in Japanese photography)
5. Restraint (hojojustu, Most commonly seen in Western bondage photography)
6. Meditation

Levels of Bondage.
(borrowed from sscc)

1) implied bondage - immobilization by suggestion or command but no use of physical materials.

2) symbolic bondage - use of physical materials for appearance or symbolism, but with restraint or immobilization low or not intended.

3) structural bondage - the bondage is achieving some physical purpose but not necessarily restraint or immobilization.

4) effective bondage - escape resistant restraint or immobilization is the major factor, although appearance, symbolism and other physical purpose may also be intended.

5) applied bondage - including furniture, fixtures, equipment and fittings etc. anything not classed as ‘toys’ in the bondage.

6) absolute bondage - if you can’t escape it, it’s absolute enough for this term, that’s the main intent anything else is a bonus.

Khajuraho - Tantric Sex

Khajuraho - Tantric Sex

More interesting temple sculptures…

Missing him is more than I can handle sometimes…

Separation from Yang is a pretty regular thing. Not by choice, but nevertheless like clockwork. I’m used to spending up to a week at a time away from him. In the beginning, it was really difficult. I would go through the same cycle of emotions each time. Pouting first…then mad (not at him)…then just numb. After a while though, I got used to it. Don’t get me wrong. He spends every available minute with me. I am completely spoiled. He is always so good to me. It’s just that this weekend is really hard for some reason; I’m not sure why. (I warned you that my posts were going to be whiny).

I just really miss him right now. I want to touch his face, hear his voice, hold his hand, feel his arms around me holding me tightly. I want to fall asleep with our legs intertwined and his breath on my neck. I need to kiss him.

It’s after midnight; I’m going to bed now. I love you…so much.