On Your Toes and Braced Against the Wall

I walk up behind you. You didn’t see me coming. You thought I was asleep while you went down the hallway for ice. We were taking an afternoon nap since we were out late the night before on an out of town weekend together. I tell you to stand still while I strip your clothes from you. You start to protest, but a finger to my lips stops you. I remove your clothing one item at a time and toss each off to the side. I watch your face begin to flush, and flush deeper, with each additional step towards your complete nudity. I can feel your heart racing at the thought of what will happen if someone steps out of their room. When I’m finished exposing you, I tell you to face the wall and lean forward until your hands are touching it. Now, spread your legs. Further. That’s good. Now raise your ass in the air. Higher. I want you up on your toes. That’s it. Hold yourself in that position. Don’t move. Stay in that position until I allow you to cum. Once you cum, you’ll be free to grab your clothes and run back to the room. I move in behind you and put a finger to your mouth for you to suck. Once it’s wet from your spit I take it from your mouth and slide my hand along the back of your ass, between your spread legs, until it gets to the very, very wet lips of your pussy. Once there I slowly run my fingers up and down your lips, occasionally entering inside, occasionally teasing your clit, and doing everything I can to make you squirm and twitch as you try to push your pussy and clit down onto my ever moving hand and fingers….they are not easy targets for you to find with your heated sex…I like it that way….watching you try to get more and more…seeing how badly you need it from how hard you work to get yourself off….your calves and legs are starting to shake and you put your feet down onto the ground….I slap your ass so loud it pops….you suck air in anxiously….afraid someone heard and will step out of their room…I tell you to raise back up on your toes or next time I’ll make sure someone hears….I don’t stop rubbing you…the sight of your ass and legs quivering….while your pussy is continually moving back and forth…humping in mid air trying hard to find that magical “O”…and…suddenly….there it is….an orgasm so hard it forces you off your toes and I hold you while you go to the ground….it’s so forceful you simply can’t stand through it….especially with your already shaking legs….

Suddenly, the elevator dings….we’re right by the opening for it…someone is coming and will be walking out the door of it any moment….you jump up and run straight to the room…forgetting your clothes.

It’s alright, I’ll bring them in. I’ll get the ice too. Then, it’ll be my turn to finish.

I hate patience!!!

For the record, all of my posts for the next 5 days are going to be rather whiny.  And I can assure you that in 2 days the whining will probably become unbearable because at that point I will be able to see Yang but will not be in a position to touch him.  He will then begin to tease me unmercifully especially when he notices that the  fidgeting has begun.

I crave him so badly right now.  I want to feel him next to me, on top of me, underneath me, inside of me.  My mind is racing with thoughts of #9 (Post: Things I like).

I need you now.

Shibari How To: Lesson 6/Mythology, Spirituality and Modern Feminism

Mythology, Spirituality, and Modern Feminism
of Rope Bondage in Japan

Mythology:

In Japanese there is an ancient saying that “binding the body, frees the sole.”

This was taken from a publish article, and is from a Japanese point of view of BDSM in Japan. So please replace any female reference with any other appropriate sexual term….

“Unlike other cultures, Japanese women find it acceptable to be humiliated and bound for carnal pleasures. We can analyze this attitude from a mental and cultural point of view. Japanese women, just like the Nawashi, think binding a woman frees her soul. How is this possible? In Japan, it is said and believed that bondage, submission and humiliation frees a woman. To understand this contradiction, you must remember that the Japanese are a very hardworking people, life is short, and all Japanese live stressful lives. Shibari is used as a tool to break free from stress and the daily routine of a simple, normal woman. In addition to this, we can analyze the importance of Shibari in relation to the attitude of the modern woman in Japan. At present, there are no more Geishas left. Feminism and equality of the sexes in Japan is standard practice though it still lags the rest of the developed world. Many women know deep inside that it is not good to abandon traditional roles and that is why, when these women find a good Nawashi, they let themselves be punished by him. The Nawashi in Japan say that the best Dorei’s or M-jo are proud women with great self-esteem, because when they are bound and humiliated, they free their egotistical selves and are left with their biological truth.

At present, Shibari and Nawakesho (ropes as a cosmetic tool) exist. I believe that Shibari is one of the best erotic tools and an endless source of sexual pleasure for both men and women. The Nawashi finds bondage and humiliation empowering. The Dorei experiences an enjoyable torture, since the Nawashi can make her writhe with pleasure, bringing her to orgasm. I personally recommend the practice of this art form when used with knowledge, wisdom and respect.”

Spirituality: Shibari is and can be a very spiritual, intimate and erotic art form and can add to almost anyone’s lifestyle. You can add any rituals into it, or use it in any of your rituals you already have!

Shibari How To: Lesson 5/History

History of Shibari
by MorTis

Western vs. Eastern Bondage

Now there is generally 2 classification of bondage; Western and eastern (Japanese) styles. Both were created for different purposed orginally, and both evolved from different uses. Western bondage was created as a form of torture and inhumane imprisonment in mid-evil Europe usually used in physical prisons. Japanese style was a more humane form of imprisonment because they did not have physical prisons generally, and could be used for interrogation and punishment. There are many styles of each of these bondage forms in the modern day. The only technical different between the two is, western style tends to use a single strand of rope, where as the Japanese style tends to use rope doubled up. Modern western bondage tends to be used mostly for restraint for other activities, where Japanese bondage tends to be used for sexual humiliation, as it’s the main focus.

Bondage in Japan.

Hojojutsu:
Originally kinbaku-bi started out as a form of incarceration in Japan in the 1400-1700’s. At that time, the local police and samurai used it as a form of imprisonment. There were no jails in Japan, very little metal resources. But they had lots of hemp and jute rope. So rope was what they had to use to keep prisoner immobile. This came out or created part of the martial art called hojojustu and some other martial arts. Even today, police in Japan carry a bundle of hemp rope in the trucks of police cars incase they need it. Some other countries like Singapore still actively use rope for incarceration and transport of prisoners.

4 laws of Samurai Hojojutsu:
1. Do not let the prisoner escape his bonds
2. Do not cause any physical or mental damage to the prisoner.
3. Do not allow anyone outside the clan see your clans techniques.
4. To be Artistic about the design.

The most common practices for torture and interrogation were…
1. Flogging
2. Weight endurance: Kneeling on angled ground and weighting down with stones.
3. Long term lotus position tie. (legs crossed, head to knees, arms behind back)
4. Semi- and full Suspension. Arm behind back tied up, or fully suspension with stone weights
5. Japanese pony. I am not sure if this was an official used, but semi-suspend on a wooden pony, which put full body weight on the genitals.

Kinbaku-bi:
In the late 1800’s and early 1900’s a new form of erotic Hojojustu evolved. This was called Kinbaku-bi, which means “The Art of Erotic Bondage”. I do not think there is any real documentation that states how this happen. But it did. I personally believe it’s like how police tend to be kinky now, and use their handcuffs for sex, why wouldn’t a cop back then do that same. ==B). I also have a personal belief that there has been some Hindu (Indian) yoga/karma sutra influenced that came over when the Hindi brought Buddhism into Japan through china and spawned Japanese Buddhism and Shintoism, but I have no proof of this at all! They both happened around the same time and have similar techniques, but it’s a nice little theory of mine. ==B)

Photo books:
There have been photograph books that showed kinbaku-bi photography since the 1920’s in Japan. Which I think is amazing, and I wish I could get my hands on some. This helped fuel the fire of kinbaku in Japan, where is an excepted part of life for many. In the 1970’s there was a huge growth of these types of books in Japan, which is referred to as the “golden age” of rope bondage photography in Japan. I have heard this was influenced from the bondage magazines that come out in the 1970’s in the US.

The Internet:
In the late 1980’s and early ’90s when the Internet became more public, it was easier to get an images of Japanese rope bondage.

Eventually Web sites that popped up about the subject in the mid-late 90’s, and unfortunately one had incorrect information on subject, and called Japanese rope bondage “Shibari”, Shibari is the Japanese word for “tie” or “bind”, but has nothing to do with rope bondage, per sa. It mostly was a term used in engineering. If you went up to someone on the street and said the word “tie” to some one, they would just be confused. Talking to a Japanese person and saying “Shibari” would be the same thing, unless they were into rope bondage.

Shibari in America:
So with the influences of the web, Shibari has spread like wildfire through the US, at least the concept if not the practices. With a new generation and style coming out of American riggers (a rigger is a person who does the tying, or work with rope or cables etc). Since the late 1990’s events have had instructors teaching Shibari. In the late 90’s and early 00’s some local bondage groups have popped up to educate (such as CRAM in Chicago, and a lot others), and as of 2004 a (inter) national Japanese rope bondage educational conference happed, which was a great success called, ShibariCon. Personally I consider Shibari to the 3rd generation of Hojojutsu/Kinbaku-Bi.

Modern Shibari in Japan:
In Japan, the Japanese riggers usually call Japanese rope bondage just “bondage”, it’s funny that Americans tend to use ethnic words for Japanese rope bondage techniques when they do not themselves. In Japan they call “shinju’s” (which means pearls) just a “chest harness” and etc. But lately I have heard rumors that the Japanese riggers are starting to use the Americanized “Japanese” terms for what they are doing now. So I think that is very interesting that it’s doing a 360 & feeding back into itself.