Archive for May, 2008

Absolutely perfect…

Posted in Love, Relationship, Sex on May 30, 2008 by advcpl

I’ve always told him how perfect he is. He tends to disagree with me, but I have proof.

First, I love doing things with him. Yet at the same time, it’s perfectly ok if we do nothing at all. I love just knowing he’s there, whether he’s right next to me, outside, or reading the news at 4 in the morning when all normal people (myself included) are still sleeping.

It doesn’t matter the circumstance, it is hard for me to look at him and not be consumed by him. But there are a few ways that he looks at me that truly make it hard to breathe. So, I end up taking the deepest breath that I can and hopelessly start to fidget.

He never complains that I’m practically attached to his hip while we sleep in a King size bed. Of course that wouldn’t be wise. (See photo of Yang’s “injury” in last post)

I could talk to him forever and about anything. In fact, although it may sound strange, talking to him is almost like sex. He’s generally a pretty private person, so when he tells me things about himself and trusts me with his thoughts, its like he’s telling me again that he loves me. It’s intimate and its something that we share between us. It doesn’t even bother me that he seems to always get the last word. It’s actually pretty sexy. But then again, it’s not hard for anything to lead me back to thoughts of sex with Yang.

Then there’s those conversations about sex…He’s always asking me what I want him to do to me. What do I fantasize about? He already drives me crazy; every touch, every kiss gives me chills. When he comes up behind me and presses his body into mine, I can feel my body losing all bone structure and just melting into him. Whether he knows it or not, I think there is a part of him that must be able to read my mind, because he always touches me in just the right way. It doesn’t seem that I can ever get enough of him. I’m starting to fidget now. Sixteen hours later, I can still feel him sliding inside of me like he did while waking me up this morning. Hmmmmm…

He is so damn perfect. There isn’t a single thing I would change.

Yin, Awesome O, and Me

Posted in Adventure, Mind Blowing Sex with tags on May 26, 2008 by advcpl

Yang\'s Injury

Yin had fun during one of our encounters this weekend. Here’s the proof.

If you matched up the pattern, it would be highly consistent with Yin’s fingernails clenching the side of my waist during a highly charged O she was experiencing at the moment these bruises were created.

I like it when Yin has fun.

Weekend ended far too soon…

Posted in Love, Relationship with tags on May 26, 2008 by advcpl

I think this weekend went by way too quick. It was fun though, and I had a great time. I wish we could do it more often. Time loses all relevance when I’m with you. Being together with you over the past year has been indescribably incredible. I’m looking forward to more. I want you just as bad now, if not more so, than when we first met. I can’t imagine the need to meet anyone else- the bar is too high.

I love you.

-Yang

Anniversary Present: A Weekend of Cock and O’s

Posted in Love, Relationship, Sex with tags , , on May 25, 2008 by advcpl

It’s been a few days since I’ve been here…things have been busy.

Yin and I are fast approaching our one year anniversary together. We celebrated last night with lamb chops, sheep’s cheese, strawberries, and champagne. For the rest of the weekend, in further celebration of us, I’m giving Yin my cock, anytime/anywhere she wants it…and as many O’s as she can stand. The only conditions are that this occur as often and as frequently as possible, that it take place inside and outside over the course of the weekend, that I not be bothered in my Tantric discipline of holding off until the very end of the weekend (Yin has an annoying habit of making me go before I’m ready…I hope when she reads this that significant guilt attaches and causes her to rethink her ways in this regard), that there be no holding back, and that, from time to time during these encounters, I will do as she says and on other times she will do as I say. I am frankly hoping that by the end of the weekend she has had so much of me that she finds it hard to walk. ;)

On the Hunt

Protected: Sometimes, I’m just a girl…

Posted in Love on May 23, 2008 by advcpl

This post is password protected. To view it please enter your password below:


I need a fix…soon

Posted in Relationship, Sex on May 19, 2008 by advcpl

I have so much to get done this week and it’s late, so I should really be in bed. However, since I’m up, the responsible thing would be to do something that would help ease the chaos this week will bring. But that’s next to impossible because I desperately need a fix from Yang.

So, I’m thinking about…

Yang’s cock…touching, holding, licking, sucking, rubbing my fingers up and down, over and around the head, the feel of it in my mouth, on my face, bringing him to the point of eruption and then backing off so that I can do it all over again.

His voice…I want to talk to him, know what he’s thinking, hear his voice telling me explicitly what he wants to do to me, what he wants me to do to him.

Fucking Yang…I want him inside of me, long, hard, passionate, without inhibitions, without end.

His body…next to mine, fitting me perfectly, so close that I feel as though I’m melting into him.


Consumed with Thoughts of Him

Posted in Love, Relationship, Sex on May 18, 2008 by advcpl

Yang’s right. Things are insanely busy right now and probably won’t slow down anytime soon. And, our lives and careers continually put us in situations where he is so close to me but not touchable. I don’t know how to do this. I think I’m slowly losing my mind. It’s impossible to be near him and not be consumed with thoughts of touching him in so many different ways. It’s so difficult to see him and hear his voice but know that it will be days before I will feel him again.

I want to feel him in my mouth. I want to feel his body pressed hard against mine. I want to feel him sliding inside of me. I want him to kiss me, hold me, talk to me, touch me.

Anyway, its after midnight.  I’m going to bed now (thinking about Yang’s good luck BJ).

Long Weekend

Posted in Love, Romance with tags on May 17, 2008 by advcpl

It’s going to be a long weekend without Yin. I miss her already and it’s barely begun. I want to feel her next to me. Run my hand through her hair. Hold her hand. Feel her touch me.

Missing Yin is compounded by the fact of this being a particularly busy time of the year for other reasons…it feels like I run from one thing to the next with no real way to stop and slow life down and really experience any part of it- it’s a whole lot like just going through the motions. Not my favorite way to live. Not my favorite way to be with Yin. Not my favorite way to do anything.

I think I’m going out to buy a lottery ticket for Yin and I. I’m sure a BJ for good luck would improve my odds. Too bad it’s going to be a few days before that’s possible.

Kinda Sucks

Longing…

Posted in Relationship, Sex on May 13, 2008 by advcpl

My body is aching right now. I need to kiss him hard. I need to touch his face. I need to feel his body pressed against mine; my legs wrapping around him. I want to feel his mouth on my breasts, licking and sucking. I want to feel his hands all over my body. I need his cock in my mouth with his head buried between my legs. I need him to fuck me now…long, hard and over and over again.

Shibari How To: Lesson 10/Rope Materials

Posted in Bondage, How-to, Shibari with tags , , on May 12, 2008 by advcpl

From http://www.bdsm-chicago.com/cram:

Rope Materials

Types of Rope

Cordage: rope, twine, or thread has always been an essential part of man’s tool kit These have been made of both animal and plant fibers, and now, synthetic fibers and wire are used as well. Examples of animal fiber cordage would include sinew for sewing, the Mexican braided rawhide reata, and the twisted horsehair hackamore. Probably every long-fiber plant known to man has been used at some time or other in history to make cordage. To judge the significance of rope, it should be noted that the maritime economies of Europe would never have come into existence without it and the New World would, in all likelihood, would never have been discovered and settled by Europeans. Without rope, the pyramids might never have been built, mountains may never have been climbed and there would be no shibari.

Different Ropes for Different Folks

Here, I will discuss the various types and and give my opinions of them. Owing to human diversity, I don’t expect everyone to agree with me or my reasoning. Hey, what makes the world go round anyway?

Rope for Shibari can be classed as either natural fiber or synthetic fiber and is further divided as being made by twisting or by braiding. Braided rope is made by braiding fine yarns of fibers over a core. The core can be of the same material as the shell or can be completely different, for example, nylon is often braided over a cotton core. Twisted rope is made by spinning fibers into yarn, usually with a right-hand twist. Multiple yarns, usually three, are then twisted or set into strands using a left hand twist. Multiple strands, usually three again, are then twisted or laid into rope using a right hand twist again. The twists in opposing directions create torque which is what holds the rope together. To determine the handedness of the twist, hold the rope in a line away from your body. If the twists or spirals of the rope recede to the right, you are looking at a right-hand or Z twist, if they recede to the left, you are looking at a left-hand or S twist. The latter is less common, by far, than the former and to my eye, simply looks “wrong.” Twisted rope is preferable for shibari in a couple of ways: most knots are designed so that the natural friction of the twists working against each other helps in their setting and stability. Twisted rope also leaves beautiful ligature marks on a subbie’s skin after the bindings have been removed–a lovely reminder of a happy time.

Synthetic Fibers

I don’t like them! let’s get that out of the way first. I don’t like them for Shibari, at least. The main synthetic fibers would be polypropylene, that nasty hard stuff that floats and is used for things like water-ski tow ropes: nylon; rayon; and the weird compounds used for climbing rope. Synthetic ropes have, as a class, certain advantages as well as disadvantages. On the positive side, they are very stable. They tend to be waterproof and will wash well. On the negative side, the can produce significant rope-burn very easily when moved quickly over the skin.

MFP ( Muti - Filament Polypropylene ), don’t confuse this with other types of rope that are not suitable for Shibari use! I personally use this type of rope for most of my Shibari work. It’s easy to keep clean, and comes in dozen of colors if you order from rainbowrope.com

Climbing rope, always braided, can be made out of several different materials, including kevlar.

Rayon can be twisted or braided and is usually used for sailing as halyards and sheets. It is very stable, has a nice texture and is very expensive.

Nylon can be twisted or braided and is very stretchy. The most commonly available types, what you would find packaged in the hardware store, are not nearly as strong as one might expect. Nylon is very slippery and doesn’t always hold knots well. In humid weather, it seems to have a moist feel to it, making it rather distasteful to me. Braided line uses a core which is not always of the same material as the surface braid. When the materials are incomparable, washing or exposure to water or humidity can and will substantially alter the characteristics of the rope.

Natural Fibers

I prefer natural fibers, well, some natural fibers. Some of them are truly nasty and are totally inappropriate for bondage. Stability varies greatly between the fibers and, of those suitable for bondage, their resistance to moisture is such that I regard them as un-washable

A word here on washability: I don’t advocate washing rope and feel that caution and personal hygiene are the answers to the problem. According to Jay Wiseman (Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook, Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA; 2000, p 116) there are no known cases of anything being transmitted to anyone through rope. True, I don’t do a lot of casual play any more and, even in light of the “harshness” of the rope I use, I’ve never had an instance where I’ve caused skin to break even slightly, so for me, it’s never really been an issue.
Manila

Manila is made from the leaf stems of the abaca plant, a member of the banana family. The fibers vary in length from 4 to 15 feet.and are classified as hard. This is very stable and strong rope. S=2D²/300 tonnes for new, top quality rope. Typically, manilla is treated with petrochemicals to inhibit mildew and has a smell like diesel fuel. This rope is totally unsuitable for bondage, the chief disadvantage is the possibility of infection from fiber splinters that break off and become embedded in the skin.

Sisal

Sisal is made from either of two fibers from tropical plants, cesarean and henequen. These fibers are shorter than manila but have the same drawbacks and are classified as hard. If the breaking strain of Manila is given as 100, sisalana=80 and henequen=65. Again, unsuitable for bondage.

Coir

Mentioned for curiosity value, coir is made from the fiber of coconut husks, is very light and floats. The rope is very rough and stretchy with a breaking strain of about 25% of manila.

Cotton

In Japan, cotton is used for static bondage (no suspension). It comes as twist or braid and is often died red, or, occasionally, other colors. Cotton has a very low strength index and is best used for decorative work. I’ve seen some lovely twist in hardware and tack stores but it’s usually too large for bondage.

The Real Shibari Nitty-gritty

This is the rope I make and use myself. From left to right: jute, raw hemp from Hungary, and sized hemp from Hungary. The sizing in the leftmost rope probably has a casein content as the twine I made it from smelled just like Elmer’s glue when I got it. The Preferred diameter is 6 to 8 mm or 1/4″.

Hemp

Hemp is a soft fiber that grows in many parts of the world, It is very absorbent and was usually tarred for use as standing rigging in old, square-rigged ships. The strength index of hemp is 100, identical with that of manila. This is a common rope for shibari in Japan. There is little or no danger of fibers breaking off in the skin and the feel is not uncomfortable at all. Hemp will stand up to repeated wettings but it shrinks at least 10% when wet and may not expand fully unless stretched. David El, in San Francisco, finishes his hemp rope with mink oil. I use mine raw and am happy with it that way. One day, perhaps, I will try out various finishing techniques on the ropes I make.

Jute

Another soft fiber, this is my favorite rope. It is nowhere near as abrasive or uncomfortable as it looks. The fiber is from the east Indian linden plant and has a pleasant licorice smell. It is processed with small amounts of creosote which some people may find unpleasant or irritating though, in my experience irritation is exceedingly rare. I know some subbies who, after being tied a few times who can go into headspace just smelling the rope. Jute is definitely not water-friendly since wetting expands the fibers and weakens the line. I have no idea what the strength index is though it is the most commonly (as I have recently been told) used rope for bondage and suspension in Japan. The trick is to inspect the rope and make sure it’s not fraying and to replace it before that starts to happen. Old rope can be used for static bondage, of course, where strength is not critical. Knots set well in jute but remain easy to untie. I use this rope raw, with no additional finishing but James in Seattle has been doing some experiments finishing jute with paraffin. He tells me my rope creaks when he uses it.